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January 23, 2014

Do as I Say, So I’ll Do as I Say

     It’s been brought to my attention the past week through various messengers (as God likes to do) that I need to be more sensitive. People act annoying at times; are downright rude at times; are bossy and snippy, at times. And I’m not just talking about kids. I’m talking actual grownups who I feel should know better. I tell my kidlet that the kids at school who tease her

Hmmmm...I should try that sometime.

Hmmmm…I should try that sometime.

might not have a good role model at home (like she does, lol!!!) or doesn’t get attention at home, etc. When I ask how she handles it, she just says she ignores them. What?!!! No witty comeback? No stink eye? Have I not taught you anything?!

     Then I realize she did exactly what I’ve told her to do. Ignore them and usually they go away. Once again, I need to heed my own advice. When someone (who is sitting on a chair doing nothing) tells me to control a kid in the church nursery as he is being distracting, I need to realize that maybe she’s going through some rough times. In fact, I found out later that she is practically raising her grandson as her son-in-law died and her daughter has mentally checked out. So glad I didn’t spew my snarky comeback out loud when I thought she was being too bossy and lazy.

     Or when someone acts like they’d rather be somewhere else, they probably do. Like at their friend’s bedside as they go through chemo, as I also learned recently.

     Honestly, being sympathetic is a fine line for me. Sometimes I think, “suck it up and be

Got baggage?

Got baggage?

nice.” After all, I know one courageous woman who had brain surgery (coolest scar ever!) who I haven’t seen without a smile on her face before or after.

     But what I’m learning is that we all deal with bumps, canyons, mountains in our lives differently. We all have baggage – some of us carry it proudly with the tags still on it to show where we’ve been. Some of us try to disguise it with a pretty Prada label. Some of us let it drag behind us as it’s on its last wheel bumping into others as we walk down the plane aisle of life.

     Either way, the next time you see me being annoyed with someone who isn’t being nice enough, please remind me to check their bag, and maybe even help them carry it.

Shannon is the stay-at-home Mama of one. But don’t ask her what she does all day. Between volunteering in the PTA, coaching volleyball, gardening, carpooling, writing (cheap therapy), publishing a book, and the business of everyday life, she has one foot in and the other out of the Mamasylum. She loves visitors, so get a day pass and visit her at or You can also email her at

  1. Nice reminder, Shannon. Your humble addressing of this topic is also a reminder that we all do what you wrote about, and there’s no point in beating ourselves up over it. Just recognize it and switch gears. We may not be able to change the past, but we can take alternate roads with our very next steps!

    Comment by Judith Cassis — January 23, 2014 @ 9:39 pm
  2. As always, Judith, you say what I need to say, just much more succinctly and eloquently! Switch gears. That’s exactly what we need to do! Thanks so much!!!

    Comment by Mamasylum — January 25, 2014 @ 5:15 pm
  3. Shannon you have such great insight and wisdom! Simple and to the point. Thank you! Nancy

    Comment by Nancy — February 2, 2014 @ 1:25 am
  4. Thanks, Nancy! Simple to say, but I find it hard to do at times!

    Comment by Mamasylum — February 22, 2014 @ 1:23 am

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